Connectedness: 6 ways to create healthy, long lasting relationships
June 5, 2017
As published in the Wellness online magazine “Wellness in Dubai”
Connectedness: 6 ways to create healthy, long-lasting relationships
Connectedness is a psychological term that refers to all things that bind people together. Every person is an individual but is also connected to others and the environment. Connectedness has 6 dimensions, which affect and complete each other:
- To self
- To family
- To work
- To environment
In health and wellness coaching this term has great significance as it is linked to fewer illnesses and faster recovery. According to recent research, modern lives are increasingly isolating and this could impose a health risk. Connectedness could help in lowering levels of anxiety and depression, increase self-esteem as well as empathy and trust to others.
Being such an important element for our wellbeing, it is advisable to look for ways to increase it in our daily lives. Some of the ways we could achieve this are explained below:
1. LEARN TO LISTEN CAREFULLY.
Listen with the heart, not only the ears. Try to figure out how the other person is feeling and thinking, based on their circumstances, not your individual perceptions. This attitude, in psychological terms, is described as empathy and is one of the fundamental characteristics of communication. Furthermore, give people the chance to finish what they want to say without interrupting them. Ask for the same attitude when you tell your own story too. This will also improve the quality of your conversations and eliminate conflict derived by misunderstandings.
2. DEDICATE TIME TO YOURSELF AND YOUR RELATIONSHIPS.
Even though the daily schedule could be quite busy and energy consuming it is important to leave some time for yourself and the important people in your life. Even 15’ of meditation or relaxation could assist you in reaching your spiritual self and unwind. Try to meet a friend, even for a quick 30’ catch up, or try to arrive home 30’ earlier and spend some time with your family. Even a phone call to just check if your friend is doing well could be quite pleasant and stress reducing. Even a small amount of time could make a difference since it is not the quantity of dedicated time that matters, but the quality of it.
3. SWITCH OFF THE WI-FI.
Whether it is a smartphone, tablet or laptop, those devices tend to occupy more of our time than they should. How many times have you caught yourself browsing without looking for something specific? Or watching YouTube videos for hours? Maybe reading through promotional or spam emails? Or checking Facebook and other social media constantly? Instead of spending time on those, not so essential activities, why don’t you try to talk to the important people in your life instead or perform an activity for yourself? This will end up being a way more fulfilling and rewarding experience.
4. BE GRATEFUL FOR EVERYTHING YOU HAVE.
Feel thankful for all the things that you might take for granted, which could be your health, your family, friends, partner, job, house etc. The list of things we need to be grateful for is quite big indeed. Especially when it comes to your relationships, remember to thank others for everything they offer you and feel blessed for that. It is very easy to say “Thank you”, two words that could have an enormously positive impact.
5. LEARN HOW TO GIVE.
Giving is a rewarding attitude and is also a value so characteristic to human nature. It could also increase self-esteem and generate a feeling of accomplishment. Volunteering could be a good idea when it comes to giving. Supporting a specific cause could offer you a sense of purpose and is a great way to give back to the community.
6. SHARE YOUR POSITIVITY AND OPTIMISM.
When someone has a problem or a concern the last thing they want to hear is negativity or criticism. Instead of that, they need support and a positive attitude. Try to see the positive side out of a problem or a person’s attitude. Face the future with optimism and try to share this attitude with others too.